The fog has rolled in this morning; and the weather has turned. Coats are now required attire.
All the changes make it seem like the holidays are almost here. And they are almost here, Thanksgiving is 5 weeks away. So one of the things about being married is that you now have to share your holidays betwixt families. Collin and I were debating the pros and cons of each situation. He could watch football if we go to his parents’ for Thanksgiving – there is no TV watching at my parents on Thanksgiving. My family definitely eats more food on Thanksgiving (my family eats all day, noon, 3 and 6 – I assumed everyone did this. I’m not sure I need to point out the obvious but you get more food this way.) If we went to Collin’s parents we would be home in our own bed by that night and we would get the whole weekend to do whatever we wanted! Where ever we go for Thanksgiving we will go to the other family’s home on Christmas.
We are leaning towards Collin’s family for Thanksgiving (this guy really likes football). It makes me a tinsy bit sad because I worry that my parents will be sad. I love my family (thanks captain obvious) and I love our holiday traditions. But part of being a new family (as patiently explained to me by my Dad when I said I didn’t think Collin and I need to be together for Thanksgiving) is building traditions together, and those traditions will usually incorporate some aspect of our familes’ traditions.
So how did you deal with the holidays as newlyweds? Strategies? Tips for survival? I know one woman who spent the first Christmas day with her in-laws crying off and on in the bathroom because she missed her family so much. Ouch.